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Your opinion plz. Known or Anon?

Thu Apr 5, 2012, 6:29 AM


Hi guys!

I've been thinking about starting a vlog recently but there is one thing that's always bothered me and that's whether or not to identify myself. I know it sounds silly but because of fanfics like 'As You Are' (okay nothing really happens, but the pairing is still male x male) or doodles that I enjoy making but am generally not proud of (anime or nudes, etc), I'm not sure if I want people to recognize me, or even worse for family members to recognize me, especially those I don't get along with.

So what do you think? If you were in my shoes, would you make your idenitity known and tell family and friends that this is part of who you are, or keep two different profiles?

Thanks for your thoughts! :heart:

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JoraiNyx Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2012  Student Digital Artist
I think you should go ahead and do it. It's unlikely they'll stumble upon your content unless you link them to it. Besides, if it's family members you do not like then what does it matter what they think anyway? It's not like they can spank you or anything....or can they? lol Just be you and do what you want.
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Oinari-Hime Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
lol I understand what you're saying, but I think since writing this journal, part of me has also decided to throw away that old self in any case. I don't want to live two lives or have any further complications, and some of the artists I admire and enjoy the most are artists who are open about themselves, their lives, and who they are. So yes, once I've sorted things out, I certainly plan on ditching the anon status :D Thank you for the support! ♥
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SRSmith Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2012   Writer
If doing what you do out in the open will result in you changing what you do so as to not offend people you know won't approve, then you have to ask yourself which is more important, keeping people happy or having that creative outlet?

You can be relatively anonymous in the crowd here where people won't find you unless they look for you, but if you're concerned about what family members might do if they do stumble upon you, either be content sanitizing this aspect of your life, or remain anonymous until their opinions can no longer hold sway over you.
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Oinari-Hime Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
It is a difficult decision to make and so for the time being I shall remain anon until I can either choose or cope with the consequences.
Thank you very much for your input ♥
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SRSmith Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2012   Writer
Difficult decisions are best not made hastily. When you know what the right answer is, you can do that, but you'll know when you know.
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combatplayer Featured By Owner Apr 14, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
well that isnt something i can tell you based on that information.. are you gay yourself? or do you just like to watch male gay parings? or are you maybe completely asexual like many people nowadays. and what is your family like? religious? if so how seriously? do you live with them or something? a lot of generally pretty basic information. these things and many more are things id need to know to give you advise on what to do other than my personal opinion.

and my personal opinion is pretty much just, be yourself.
don't be what others want you to be because you fear their reaction. i'm a giant hypocrite for saying this because i don't follow this at all. but it's still my opinion.
only you can make your life what you want it to be, you can keep that part of you that likes yaoi and such as a pure online identity with no face or personal detail for anyone other than the ones you trust the most, or you can take and bring it out from here, making it your real life, at whatever cost it may have. i think it all boils down to your personal preferences and what you really want.
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Oinari-Hime Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
I'm not gay myself, I cant even remember how I got into yaoi so long ago. Its not that I like yaoi per se but rather the dramatic and romantic 'universe' it always falls under. As I told *tsatsuke in a note "I craved yaoi because it showed love, something which until recently I had no knowledge of and desperately sought. Even more so it was forbidden love which made it all the more exciting. It was my fix like any old drug, my coping mechanism. I think in part that its my realization of this that has also brought about this shame. I have gay friends, even a family member that's gay and if I honestly had to go talk to my family about this I know that they wouldn't banish or shun me in any way because of it. Its my dependence upon it and cowardly way of living that I don't want them to see. I don't wish to ruin the perfect image they have of me."

And so I agree with what you said and I'm going to try my best to be myself, but the current me doesn't care much for yaoi. The fanfic I mentioned is an old project of mine, the characters don't even kiss, though I will feel bad about the people who were following it on fanfaction.net so perhaps I'll just try to neatly wrap it up and have them live happily ever after.

Thank you so very much for your encouraging words and support! I'll do my best to be the best me there is! ♥
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combatplayer Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
if theres no need to hide it other than their "perfect view" of you, then dont hide. the only thing thats a perfect view of you is the view thats the real you. and if they will even accept you as such, then go for it ^^
its way harder than it sounds, i know that. but still.

i can easily see why you like yaoi based on that, i like that about it too, but i still feel unpleasant when i see two guys or two girls kissing etc. probably scars from the past tainting me lol.

i just hope it all goes well for you. also just fyi, the best you there is, is the only real you there is.
and i think you will find love soon. so you dont need to worry about that.
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Oinari-Hime Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
"the best you there is, is the only real you there is" wise words!
Truly, thank you for all the support and comfort, it really helps and I hope that your wounds will one day heal as well ♥
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combatplayer Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
if you ever need something i'm always around ^^
need someone to talk to or just want to say hi, i'm always up for a chat ^^

take care of yourself, and good luck with it all. ^^
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